For some reason this morning I started thinking about a seminar I attended probably over thirty years ago now in Atlanta, Georgia at a meeting of the Million Dollar Round Table. I signed up for the two hour event reluctantly since I’m not a big fan of motivational speakers. But a few of my buddies were going so I tagged along. The man’s name was Jim Rohn and I had never heard of him. Obviously, he made an impression on me because here I am a quarter century later writing about it. He said a great many note-worthy and helpful things, but this morning only one of them came to mind. It was the one thing he said that resonated the most with me…and still does. But I’m wondering if now that I have retired its still sound life advice.
Mr. Rohn was speaking to a crowd of 2000 businessmen and women. He did so for over two hours without notes or a podium, just him in a nice blue suit and a microphone. About halfway through he began talking about what he considered to be a great divide in the business world and indeed the human experience and that is the conflict between security and adventure. Human beings crave both things in equal measure. Because of our desire for comfort and safety we strive for security. But there is something strong within the human heart that longs for adventure as well, and the adventurous life is tethered to risk, which we are conditioned by society to avoid. Then he said this, or words very close to this, (thirty years is a long time!), “Here’s what changed my life…the day that I discovered that everything about life is risky, the very moment I was born life became risky. Security is an illusion. Don’t seek security, seek adventure! if you think trying something hard is too risky, wait until they hand you the bill for not trying. Its better to live 30 years full of adventure, than 100 years safe in the corner.”
Every bit of that rang true with me. I had just made the decision to go into business for myself. I had given up every secure thing I knew to be my own boss. No employer-provided anything. No salary, no guarantees, just me and my ability to succeed, and I was all in. For me it turned out to be the right decision. I had the personality type for it. I had the right combination of determination, cockiness and balls to pull it off. But it was costly. The price for all that independence was high levels of stress and anxiety, much of it unacknowledged, that took a toll. Still, if I had a chance to do it over again—I would. For me, I just couldn’t have succeeded working for someone else.
Now, I’m retired. The anxiety and stress associated with having to constantly produce has vanished. I no longer wonder where my next payday is coming from. I know exactly where, and for the first time in my life I know exactly how much. It’s such a strange feeling! Is now the time to introduce security into my life? Most of me says—absolutely! But there’s another part of me which actually misses the rush of unpredictability that came with the business. The truth is I still want a level of adventure. At some point down the line my body won’t be able to cash the checks that my mind writes, to put it another way, adventures are generally a young man’s game. But that doesn’t mean that 67 year olds can’t play too…right?
One of the many things I’ll need to work out in retirement.